The Four Agreements – Be Impeccable With Your Word
The Four Agreements
When we entered this world, we learned sounds and symbols, which represented letters and words, which allow us to communicate. This is an agreement we have made as humans. We agree on language, morals, religions, teachings, etc. We agree to a set of rules and laws of civilization. We are awarded and punished according to how we follow these rules. As we get older, these rules, punishments, and rewards are mainly internally managed from what we have learned. This is our agreement as a society. These agreements tell us who we are, how to feel, and what we believe. Many of these agreements, however, are created from fear, uncertainty, and insecurity. Often we do not examine how they are affecting us. Many of us live our lives unaware, and without intent or purpose. These four agreements are a way to help us live a more mindful existence with truth and love at its center.
The first agreement is: Be Impeccable with your word
Our language allows us to relate to one another and share information. It can bring someone soaring joy or deep sorrow depending on how it is used. I want to ask you to suspend belief for a moment and imagine with me that our words are actually magic. We say a word and it casts a spell out on the recipient, the subject, the world. We say something kind and loving and that kind and loving word gives the recipient a feeling of warmth and adoration. We cast a hurtful or mean word and the world, receives our hate and fear. When words are spoken even if the subject of them is not present, those feelings are passed on and spread by those who received them, for good or bad. Those words also shape our view of ourselves, and our view of the world around us. Therefore, the first agreement asks that when impeccable with our words to ourselves and others, we speak with integrity. We are honest and reliable in our interactions. Say only what you mean. Speak with intent and awareness. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. This can only lead to self-contempt or ripples of resentment and animosity into the world. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. Understand that you, through encouraging self-talk and sharing pleasantness and caring words with others can shape your reality in a positive light causing others to shine as well.
